4 Signs to Know You're Been Used in a Relationship

There could be nothing more frustrating

and heartbreaking than discovering those

who purportedly professed their 'love' to

us, and we reciprocating in return, are the

same ones that took our love for granted

and played with our emotions like it's some

worthless toy.

To avoid finding yourself in such an unpleasant

situation, here are four signs that could help

you detect earlier if you are being used or

manipulated by your partner.

YOUR ACTIVITIES TOGETHER IS

MAINLY SEXUAL

Your relationship is really a time bomb waiting

to explode if all your partner is always

interested in getting you involved in is sex.

And once they've extracted all possible sexual

pleasure and gratification from you, then

you've certainly have been marked 'done' on

their register. However, if you don't want to

be a record holder as a perpetual bridesmaid

or an ever consistent groomsman and never the

bride or groom, you've got to avoid being a

pleasure spot that gratifies other people's

sexual appetite.

MAINLY CONTACT YOU WHEN THEY NEED SOMETHING

Being with a partner that more or less contacts

you only when they need something either

through calling or meeting, is a bold sign that

you are being used to serve their needs and

they wouldn't mind discarding you when you

start objecting or when you have been

comprehensively milked dry. You'd agree with

me that when they need something, they'd

perfectly act all caring, super nice, speak to

you in romantic tones like they just came back

from throat surgery and intense voice training.

And when they're done getting what they want,

they are almost instantly gone for a while like

they are on exile.

YOU GUYS BASICALLY HANGOUT WHEN THEY ARE BORED

It's always advisable to be on the alert when

someone who is supposed to be your partner

suddenly realises you exist. You either get

sudden calls or request for hangouts and it

could only mean two things- they are bored and

need someone to be with or they are idle. Then

if you similarly try making a request to hang

out with them, you're served with excuses

from being busy (this is frequent) to tooth

ache, to eye ache, and all what nots.

NO FUTURE PLANS WITH YOU

Nothing can be more indicative of being used

than having a partner who seems reluctant or

uninterested in making future plans with you.

His/her temporary arrangement for you is to

keep him/her company; you simply don't figure

in their future. If you on the other hand have

made plans on the kind of luxurious house

you'd build together, the large number of

beautiful children you'd have or those exotic

cars you'd drive, well, you might as well only

be driving them in your imagination.

If you've been noticing any of these signs in

your relationship or you have other views,

kindly drop your comments.

- by Kalejaye Abayomi